Diary of a working mom

As a working mom I feel like I fall short everywhere. There are not enough hours in the day or energy in my body to allow me to give everything and everyone my all. My weekdays are full of driving baby and me to and from grandmas and work, a 7-8 hour work day as a special education teacher, dinner, dishes, laundry, and bedtime. Sometimes those things spill over into the next day or into the weekend and it’s an endless cycle I feel like I’m trapped in.

Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom and providing for my family in every way that I can but there are days where I feel like I have so much to do. When I reflect at night I feel bad for the time I didn’t spend with my son because I was rushing around trying to finish laundry or attempting to clean a bathroom. Sometimes it’s the other way around. I put stuff off and spend my time after work playing and at the end of the night I look at my untidy house. In that moment I wish that my husband would agree that hiring a cleaning service once a month would be really nice. I think it’s reasonable. I’m working on making this happen.

As I write this I remember, “oh yeah I’m also a wife!”. If my husband is reading this, please know I’m doing the best I can and the love I’ve always had for you is still there and bigger than ever. Watching you be the best daddy to our little boy makes my heart want to explode! I’m still trying to figure out my life with the role of momma in it. Before I had my first I remember telling my husband “we can’t forget about us”. That plan didn’t work out. I’m finally to the point where I can be comfortable leaving my son with his grandparents for a couple of hours while we have date night. The only thing is we don’t make time for date night. Our weekends are full of doing things around the house or running some errands. Now you can add Football and MLB Playoffs. By 5 o’clock I’m ready for bed. My goal is to make date night a normal part of our lives again. I’ll update you guys on how this plan works out.

If there are any working moms out there that have the cleaning, the wife duties and mom duties down, I’d love to hear what you do! With a second baby boy on the way I need to figure something out quick. I would love to not feel as overwhelmed as I did the first time. I want to be able to somewhat enjoy postpartum this time around.

3 thoughts on “Diary of a working mom

  1. Congrats on being pregnant with your second baby! I’m a working mom too and I definitely know the struggle. We give ourselves a date night once a month and each of us gets a girl/guys night out once a month also. It’s so important to have both. I struggled initially because I felt guilty working all week and then taking a date night, but I found out real quick how fast I was burning myself out by only splitting myself between work and family. With household chores, I find me and my husband splitting them is super helpful. Also, some days my house is just a mess and that’s okay. My aunt advised me mess will always be there but babies grow up and eventually don’t need you as much. Even with all of that, I don’t think any of us have it down! 🙂

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  2. Karina, I loved your article-it’s always nice to know we are not alone!!! Being a wife and mom is such a blessing and not for the faint of heart that is for sure! My husband and I work opposite shifts and only see each other on the weekends, so making time is so important! We’ve found that even when we can’t go out, we’ll order food when our kids go to bed and watch a movie and have a “stay in date night” Texting, calling, writing love notes and lots of communication is important💛. As for the house I agree with Bianca I was told by my aunt the house and cleaning will ALWAYS be there but our children won’t, sometimes I have to let the dishes fill the sink so I can spend that extra time with them, although I do wear myself out sometimes with trying to do all the cleaning when they go to bed! 🤦🏼‍♀️
    Prayers and blessings to you! Keep it up Mama your doing great!

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